Im 36 about to be 37

Sometimes even lack of opportunity.

Lack of money, lack of resources, lack of direction, etc. etc.

Christ, it took me until I was 27 just to grow up. I didn't have solid direction until 3 years ago when I went back to college. I'm turning 38 next month. Some people it takes longer. And I'm paying for that because women my age all have kids. Nothing against that, but not something I'm interested in dealing with just yet. Or they have no kids but are extremely heavy smokers.... 35 looking 85.

I was fucked the moment I got out of tertiary education. No employer would take me due to legal discrimination ("experience wanted") and now I'm 35 with nothing behind me and a criminal record (more legal discrimination). I was lied to in late high school to "get an education in IT, that field is booming" and thus I pursued education that is 100% worthless. Some of you may have "started late" but in my case I'm already well over the line into being too late.

But hopefully TC isn't.

Doesnt literally everybody face the barrier of starting with no experience?

No kids never had a girlfriend and I live with grandmother I get made fun and ridiculed consistently for this. I plan on moving out In a couple months, but still feel like the biggest loser in the world should i feel this way?

Yes. Some people get through it via luck, others through nepotism.

The fact there are so many jobseekers stuck where they are is indicative of a problem. A NIMBY-style problem where every employer says "I want someone experienced, but there are plenty of others out there who will take newcomers and train them." Then you move on and hear the exact the same thing...

There are instances of that happening, of course. There are also instances of people not wanting to start at the bottom and claiming that employers are being unfair by not hiring them in a more senior or well paid role than they could realistically get.

If you told me that youd been knocked back by employers with unrealistic expectations several times, Id have no trouble believing that at all. It is a bit harder to believe that all employers are unreasonable.

Even shit kicker jobs like lugging boxes in a warehouse is something I usually don't hear back from. Probably because my resume doesn't have the right key words their bullshit software (which should be illegal) scan for. But sure, "my generation hides behind their emails" according to my father. Not the managers doing what I just described.

My resume is fine, jobseeking agencies have told me. The qualifications on it are more than job-ready. At this point there is only one other possibility. Society's message is read loud and clear - it doesn't want me to work. So society can go fuck itself. Part of why I'm glad climate change is coming.

You seem really bitter, mate. Its not healthy.

If youre not getting interviews, therell be something wrong with your applications. I know youve mentioned many times about having a criminal record, but you also seem to be suggesting that you had issues for a long time before that. Am I understanding that correctly?

No kids never had a girlfriend and I live with grandmother I get made fun and ridiculed consistently for this. I plan on moving out In a couple months, but still feel like the biggest loser in the world should i feel this way?

Man, some of the posts in here sound like some heavy cope. It's not cool to make fun of people for these lifestyles, but they shouldn't be encouraged either. If you genuinely enjoy living that way it's fine, but if you are even asking if this is how you want to live, then you probably don't. That doesn't mean you need to get a "respectable" job and a wife and kids or whatever you think is society's definition of success, but it's perfectly normal to want to carve out independence for yourself and have relationships (both sexual and platonic).

I have my doubts that TC gets made fun of that often, at least directly, but people in that situation get made fun of broadly a lot, and seeing it can prey on someone's insecurities. We also play a big role in how others perceive us. Some people are genuinely comfortable in that kind of life (I think it's a very small amount though), but if you think of yourself as a loser then most likely so will others who pick up on your lack of confidence.

42, severe social anxiety, never gone on a date, still live with parents, haven't had a job in 24 years. But I'm happy I don't have to work. Is it a screwed up way to live? Sure.

What happens when your parents die?

Incidentally I would hope to be involved with someone down the line. Just haven't found that person.

That said I definitely agree that committed relationships whether marriage is part of that or not isn't for everybody and it should be entirely the parties involved making that choice.

But I do think it is say just as hasty to decrie relationships as a trap every one should be weary of. Or basically it's just something we should agree works for some while for others it is casual dating or none at all.

This kind of thinking still sounds defeatist to me though. People tend to see being awkward or emotionally unavailable, or whatever they see as making them "unfit" for relationships, as though they're fixed states of being. I will say it can seem insurmountable, especially if you do have real underlying mental health issues, but people can change.

Okay, that seems a bit irrelevant to the kind of users that are on CE though

You are 36 going on 37, soon the fellas will fall in line

Man, some of the posts in here sound like some heavy cope. It's not cool to make fun of people for these lifestyles, but they shouldn't be encouraged either.

One Id rather not share, but it doesnt matter.

QFT