Tag, if I think of anything while at work I'll post it.
Edit: sorry to hear that happened to you TC. That's horrible
For me, it was my mental health. I was severely depressed from my teens to about 28 years old, when I finally sought treatment.
It just wasn't a thing I would admit or address until it got so bad, I was basically forced to.
Also not sure why a lot of men find it hard to talk about their feelings. Like most just bottle everything up till they explode on someone.It's a perceived threat to the ability to provide if men admit that they have difficulty with things, particularly if it's related to emotions, stress, depression, etc. The "expectation" is that men are supposed to endure everything while being the indefatigable pillar of their social unit (family, workplace, community, etc) and being unable to do so is seen as a failure of their masculinity.
It's a perceived threat to the ability to provide if men admit that they have difficulty with things, particularly if it's related to emotions, stress, depression, etc. The "expectation" is that men are supposed to endure everything while being the indefatigable pillar of their social unit (family, workplace, community, etc) and being unable to do so is seen as a failure of their masculinity.
While I think that's an incredibly ineffective way to exist, that's still a very prevalent social norm and a lot of guys aren't willing to admit their struggles and stresses because of that fear that they'll be viewed as lesser or inadequate by their social unit.
The taboo of men attending psychological counseling has lessened a fair bit over the last 50 odd years (the oft reviled "Boomers" were the generation where gender roles and social norms began to shift more prominently) but I feel that it's still largely pervasive.
Tl;Dr ideas of what is acceptably "masculine" dog many men, to the degree that they might avoid seeking very necessary help for the sake of preserving their perceived "manhood"
Isn't that also how the down low got started was because of that manhood bs?Indeed
It's a perceived threat to the ability to provide if men admit that they have difficulty with things, particularly if it's related to emotions, stress, depression, etc. The "expectation" is that men are supposed to endure everything while being the indefatigable pillar of their social unit (family, workplace, community, etc) and being unable to do so is seen as a failure of their masculinity.
While I think that's an incredibly ineffective way to exist, that's still a very prevalent social norm and a lot of guys aren't willing to admit their struggles and stresses because of that fear that they'll be viewed as lesser or inadequate by their social unit.
The taboo of men attending psychological counseling has lessened a fair bit over the last 50 odd years (the oft reviled "Boomers" were the generation where gender roles and social norms began to shift more prominently) but I feel that it's still largely pervasive.
Tl;Dr ideas of what is acceptably "masculine" dog many men, to the degree that they might avoid seeking very necessary help for the sake of preserving their perceived "manhood"
Sorry to hear about that TC :/ rape is vile and should never happen to anyone and men absolutely experience rape and not just at the hands of other men either. Likewise men do struggle to open up and are constantly told that opening up is a weakness. These are facets of society that ultimately and absolutely need changing.
Nobody should be ignored and those hurt by predators deserve justice.