Single Ceople, whens the last time you went on a date? nt

How did it go?

About 2 years ago, it went well but she had to move for a job so it didn't go far unfortunately

Jesus... it'd be about seven years now? 2018? Might even be 2017.

Online dating sucks and it really went downhill after those years. I quit trying after 2020.

do you find it hard to meet ppl in person? Ever tried joining a local social group or something?

do you find it hard to meet ppl in person? Ever tried joining a local social group or something?

I find it hard to find people who are single, interested in me, and have a reason to be interested in them. It's pretty much impossible. There are very few situations an adult can be in where they have enough time with someone to make that decision. Joining a "social group" to pick up women is creepy and I can't do hookups. I'm not going to do things I don't care about to find people I don't want to be around.

what if you hate being social? If you just want to have a relationship and not an entire group of friends just to find one person?

I'll just say it's not going good here folks, although I did recently talk myself out of going on a Tinder date a few months ago, so maybe you can attribute it to self-sabotage. But normally on the apps I barely get any viable matches at all, so it's not like that's a common behavior of mine.

I've been going to meetup groups, I think it's absolutely fine to go there hoping to meet women, just don't be a creep about it. Although if my experience is anything to go by, there will be so few women attending anyway that you don't have to worry about overthinking how you come off, unless you are going in with zero social skills at all.

Online dating is so normalized now that I feel like it went from something for introverts to meet to a place that ironically just further empowers people who already were good at dating. Well at least that's my experience as a man seeking women, which is probably most of the people reading this topic too. Women mostly want to see that you are sociable/get out of the house/have attractive hobbies, and gamer(-adjacent) hobbies definitely ain't it

Last week. I'm trying to do one date with someone different each month.

Tbh I've kind of lost interest in dating as of late and just want to focus on myself for a bit longer

why did you talk yourself out of the date?

• Wasn't feeling like I was confident enough to go on a date after all
• Wasn't feeling that attracted to her
• The dating app experience of almost never receiving interest warps my perceptions so that when a woman does show interest I can't help but think "there must be something wrong with her" (this ties back in to points 1 and 2 a bit)

* Wasn't feeling like I was confident enough to go on a date after all
* Wasn't feeling that attracted to her
* The dating app experience of almost never receiving interest warps my perceptions so that when a woman does show interest I can't help but think "there must be something wrong with her" (this ties back in to points 1 and 2 a bit)

I find it hard to find people who are single, interested in me, and have a reason to be interested in them. It's pretty much impossible. There are very few situations an adult can be in where they have enough time with someone to make that decision. Joining a "social group" to pick up women is creepy and I can't do hookups. I'm not going to do things I don't care about to find people I don't want to be around.

Well when you put it that way you make me sound shallow lol, I meant also like I wasn't sure I was vibing with her personality, plus she lived over an hour away

But you dont join social groups to pick up women. You join them to make friends. And having lots of friends has many benefits, one of which happens to be more avenues for meeting potential partners.

Ah ok. How have they gone? One date a month? Have you been using the apps?

What's a date?

What few matches I date I get through Hinge

I had a date to prom in high school. Never dated otherwise.

ah, ever tried the paid version for a month?

ah, ever tried the paid version for a month?

* Wasn't feeling like I was confident enough to go on a date after all
* Wasn't feeling that attracted to her
* The dating app experience of almost never receiving interest warps my perceptions so that when a woman does show interest I can't help but think "there must be something wrong with her" (this ties back in to points 1 and 2 a bit)

I might try it out in the future but tbh I have kind of lost interest in dating as of late. I recently bought a house and kind of just want to focus on getting settle down before putting myself out there more. I only really go on dates once a month just to get some dating experience since I've never went on a date prior to turning 30.

Ironic that I've spent so much of my 20s just trying to focus on myself and improve and yet now that I'm getting things in order I'm suddenly unmotivated in finding a partner.

Also I had a girl into me, and she was very pretty, but for no good reason whatsoever I wasn't attracted to her. She reminded me too much of my sister or my mom. On a dating app she would be 100 leagues ahead of me and I would have 0% chance.

Not point #1, though. I will burn up in the atmosphere on entry and make a fool of myself if I have already commited to it.

Or, wait, rereading this I think you mean you didn't meet her on a dating app? Being attractive in real life is waaay easier, don't let the dating app experience make you think about "leagues". Of course the problem with real life is it isn't easy to put yourself in a position to meet women (although the apparent amount of women on dating apps is kind of an illusion)

any specific reason you think?

I can also actually be funny if I want to, believe it or not, can't really do that on dating apps.

Never asked anyone, or been asked.