I hate having social anexity.

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Anyone overly anexious at times? I am very anxeious in crowds, groups etc. Normally when I go to Woolsworth or Coles, I would grab whatever I need and leave.

Nowadays wear me headphones with music playing.

I am not much of a people person, nor I wanna marry due to a not so good childhood. My cats do help me with anexity.

Does anyone have bad anexity or Social Anexity?
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I don't have social anxiety, errrr, chronic social anxiety at least; But I do have hypochondriacal anxiety or whatever it's called (every tiny thing makes me think I'm dying for a second and then I panic).

Since I'm already a hermit, I'd trade it for social anxiety (of the chronic variety... since I have slowly accumulating social anxiety after long periods)
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Lokarin posted...
I don't have social anxiety, errrr, chronic social anxiety at least; But I do have hypochondriacal anxiety or whatever it's called (every tiny thing makes me think I'm dying for a second and then I panic).

Since I'm already a hermit, I'd trade it for social anxiety (of the chronic variety... since I have slowly accumulating social anxiety after long periods)
I love solitude. I do have friends, but they respect me. My parents tried to force me to be more social. Didn't help.

I panic worse in situstions that I feel alien to.
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Ive had social anxiety my entire life, especially around women, and they expect me to carry every social interaction. So needless to say I get almost nowhere with them.

Ive just come to the conclusion that Ill have to fight it for the rest of my life on a daily basis.

I did get a cat about 12+ years ago, hoping shed help with anxiety but she passed away about a year ago. She had major anxiety as well, especially when Id have to leave for work every day. Which basically gave me even more anxiety
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FrozenBananas posted...
Ive had social anxiety my entire life, especially around women, and they expect me to carry every social interaction. So needless to say I get almost nowhere with them.

Ive just come to the conclusion that Ill have to fight it for the rest of my life on a daily basis.

I did get a cat about 12+ years ago, hoping shed help with anxiety but she passed away about a year ago. She had major anxiety as well, especially when Id have to leave for work every day. Which basically gave me even more anxiety
Your cat sounds sweet.

My one cat is three and he helps me feel better. Most of me anexity is from parents and peers.
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Do you have dislexity?
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The solution is to force yourself into situations with a lot of people and talk to strangers consistently enough that the anxiety isn't a problem anymore. I still get uncomfortable in crowds, but it's more of a frustration with how slow and annoying everyone is. I'm a whole lot better with worrying about what other people think of me.

You will never get better by staying in your safe space.
Extremely, it frequently gets in the way of making friends or just casual conversations.
I say this from a place of understanding, I know how uncomfortable it is to put yourself out there. I know what it's like to lie awake at night wishing you knew how to approach people or what words to say that will make things easier. It doesn't need to be all at once, but just being in those situations more WILL help. Maybe find a job in retail or some place dealing with clients/customers/guests where you need to interact with people on a daily basis. Some place that gives you a reason to interact with people. It does get better. Maybe not completely and maybe not quickly, but I can say from experience I am a long way from where I was before.
Have you talked to a doctor about this?
OneEyedShinobi posted...
I love solitude. I do have friends, but they respect me. My parents tried to force me to be more social. Didn't help.

I panic worse in situstions that I feel alien to.
I should also add that it really helps to have a support group or be in an environment with coworkers/friends who are patient and understanding. Hopefully your friend group can help you with this.
Salrite posted...
I say this from a place of understanding, I know how uncomfortable it is to put yourself out there. I know what it's like to lie awake at night wishing you knew how to approach people or what words to say that will make things easier. It doesn't need to be all at once, but just being in those situations more WILL help. Maybe find a job in retail or some place dealing with clients/customers/guests where you need to interact with people on a daily basis. Some place that gives you a reason to interact with people. It does get better. Maybe not completely and maybe not quickly, but I can say from experience I am a long way from where I was before.


Oh yes this is true for me, I've been working a retail job that requires me to interact with people for the last few years and my anxiety is alot better, enough to get through a work day easily but socializing outside of that is still incredibly difficult.
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VioletZer0 posted...
Have you talked to a doctor about this?
My threapist knows. They also know that I am not intrested in a releationship by being Asexual(Traumaic Issues I can't say here.)

Most of my anexity is from how I was treated growing up and that being puhed aside allot.

Yellow posted...
Do you have dislexity?
You mean Dyslexia ? I never been tested for it. I know I am on the specturm and ADHD. There are moments that do have a hard time seeing certain letters.

Salrite posted...
The solution is to force yourself into situations with a lot of people and talk to strangers consistently enough that the anxiety isn't a problem anymore. I still get uncomfortable in crowds, but it's more of a frustration with how slow and annoying everyone is. I'm a whole lot better with worrying about what other people think of me.

You will never get better by staying in your safe space.
Ths is why I bring my headphones and pop on any game track and vibe. I do talk to some people that share my intrests. It's allot better than it was ten years ago for me (I'm 24 now)

I have had some... strange folk trying to flirt with me. I don't recipicate.
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I am not a doctor obviously but the way you describe this is pretty severe and might require medication.
I used to have both anxiety and depression

but I just decided to not feel those feelings so now I just cant

it is actually a major life challenge to be so uninhibited though sometimes they hospitalize me simply for being too wild and maniacal even though my behavior remains non threatening
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VioletZer0 posted...
I am not a doctor obviously but the way you describe this is pretty severe and might require medication.
I already take meds. It makes me go potato mode and stay focused better.
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I do, and I find the best thing to do is remember I hate all of those people and they mean nothing to me.
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I used to deal with it a lot more but I find it pretty controlled these days. I find myself less anxious if I speak my mind, even though that sometimes causes more actual disagreement. I found I was more anxious because I was not being honest about my own thoughts and feelings. I'm better at being outspoken, of course in a polite way. Unless it's more appropriate not to be :p
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Was thrown into plenty of social situations most of my life. I am a introvert so I rather not deal with people. I did have plenty of social anxiety but as time went on I got much better at dealing with social situations. Still don't like it but forced to get use to it.
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Taaron posted...
Was thrown into plenty of social situations most of my life. I am a introvert so I rather not deal with people. I did have plenty of social anxiety but as time went on I got much better at dealing with social situations. Still don't like it but forced to get use to it.
Plus I had allot of shaming from parents and one teacher back in year 3. So it makes me fear saying the wrong thing.
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Coles does like $2 delivery if you order over $50 and have it delivered on like a Tuesday morning, prob not gonna help your social anxiety by isolating further tho

Can't help otherwise, I'm not sure I've ever experienced anxiety let alone social anxiety.
So I was standing still at a stationary store...
i used to be worse about it. thankfully, my last job replaced most of my anxiety with trauma so i don't have to worry about it anymore.
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